The First Rule Of Fight Club Quote

The First Rule Of Fight Club Quote

Does Fight Club have the key to contentment?

The first rule of Fight Club quote tells me to not talk about Fight Club. This follows with the second rule of Fight Club, You DO NOT talk about Fight Club. The idea of course is to hammer home the idea that the group should be kept secret. Expectations are clear and there should be no confusion with accountability.

If you haven’t seen this movie I’m telling you now it’s a must see. For a time in my life I watched that movie daily, almost like an affirmation. There is a lot of critical lessons to learn in that movie that can lead to satisfaction and contentment in our lives. Much like the penis added to the film rolls, you won’t know it’s there unless you slow it down and look for it.

Can we discover a transcendence of existence where we are truly content and at a perfect state?

Why I started this article with the first rule of Fight Club quote was to amplify the thought process that we can just think something into existence and make it reality. Can we just tell ourselves to feel a certain way and make it true?

I listened to a Tony Robbins podcast just recently and he made a great point about our minds. The human mind is a program for survival. The mind is designed to see dangers, be apprehensive, and prepare for the worst case scenario.

What we need to do is reprogram our thought process from it’s natural inclinations and “modernize” it. We need to consistently tell ourselves to not be fearful or apprehensive or our natural thought process will make it happen.

first rule of fight club quote

Are you happy with where you are in life right now?


It seems like a simple question that should get a simple answer. As I’ve learned however, most things in life are a matter of perception. I’ve come to that moment in life where I’m just too content.

That means I’m missing something right?

I competed in some fashion from T-Ball when I was 5 to MMA in my 30s.

Now, I’m in my 40’s, happily married to a beautiful wife, and have two amazing kids. Life is too good for me right now.

Why is it when I’m at the best moment in my life I feel I’m missing something?

Is it some sort of self-abasement or penance I deserve for having such a comfortable environment and surroundings? Am I lacking the primitive instincts of the Hunter Gatherer, tackling all types of beasts and prey to provide while fending off attackers and defending the village?

Why do we always need more, is this what it means to have a midlife crisis?

I don’t think so, according to the definition of midlife crisis “an emotional crisis of identity and self-confidence that can occur in early middle age.” I am at no loss on my identity, I more than enjoy who I am, what I have done, and where I am at. What best suits my perception of events to this point in my life is a quote from a movie that’s provided me as many spiritual and philosophical insights as any other movie or book I’ve read.

“We’re the middle children of history, man. No purpose or place. We have no Great War. No Great Depression. Our great war is a spiritual war… Our great depression is our lives. We’ve all been raised on television to believe that one day we’d all be millionaires, and movie gods, and rock stars, but we won’t. We’re slowly learning that fact. And we’re very, very pissed off.” 

-Tyler Durden

As I spoke about in Finding Zen With Martial Arts I use my Martial Arts and training to find my state.

My state of being where I can let go of my fears, worries, anxieties, and reprogram my “natural” thought process.

Like the first two rules of Fight Club, I consistently tell myself what I need to do to improve. Live smart but without fear and find the positive and not the negative in every situation.


What do you do in your life to combat your natural instinct to fear and have anxiety?


  1. P Douglas Filaroski

    I think this is a great reminder of the power of what I can positive thinking. I believe I first learned the power of the mind in visualizing success at the age of 8 or so when a baseball coach told me to use idle time between pitches in the outfield by visualizing what I would do when the ball was hit in my direction – to visualize fielding the ball. I later applied that thinking to other scenarios of visualizing success and believe that is similar to what you are talking about. I feel this article expanded upon that belief of mind and served as a good reminder of the power of positive thinking. Thank you!

  2. Zharien

    Might I say this was an amazing read and I am definitely going to give the movie Fight Club a watch.

    My perspective is that we live in a fallen world controlled by a natural state called SIN (disconnection from God) a state to which we are born in, so in that point Tony is correct our mind is automatically deceitful, fearful, proudful, lustful and just focused on every bad thing.
    I love Jesus with all my heart. After some time learning more about who Jesus is. I noticed that Jesus had full control over his mind and actions and ultimately his perception of life, consider that the “reprogramming” aspect of our thought process. It sounds easy to say, but majority of the worlds population doesn’t think that deeply.

    With that being said, life is all about perspective and the lense that you see it through. That lense is being shifted every moment of the day and that very perspective is being attacked at every angle, especially in today’s society. This is the ULTIMATE SPIRITUAL BATTLE. The battle of our minds and thought process, which, determines how we feel in our heart. If we only understood our heart a lot more.

    Lastly, to combat your natural instinct to fear anxiety in my life I pray and I remind myself of Gods Promise to us:

    Humble yourselves, therefore, under the mighty hand of God so that at the proper time he may exalt you, 7 casting all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you. 8 Be sober-minded; be watchful. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour. 9 Resist him, firm in your faith, knowing that the same kinds of suffering are being experienced by your brotherhood throughout the world. 10 And after you have suffered a little while, the God of all grace, who has called you to his eternal glory in Christ, will himself restore, confirm, strengthen, and establish you. 11 To him be the dominion forever and ever. Amem (1 Peter 5: 6-11)


    Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.” (Matthew 11: 28-30)

    There’s so much I would like to get at, but i’ll leave it here.

    1. Wow Zharien that was incredibly deep.
      Thanks for reading man and responding like that.

      I’m going to reread that few times and let it digest.

      It really speaks to the subject, and the firmness I know you have in your faith is inspirational

  3. Ian

    I really like the thought of whether we can find and transcend in our life to find perfection and happiness and like you said this movie has some good meanings to learn from. I had a question about what you personally gained from the movie. Was there any aspect that personally stuck with you after watching this? 

    1. lgoupil

      Thanks for reading. 
      Acting and everything else aside which I think was great in this movie. 
      What I got out of it was the human obsession for material goods and self importance.  
      I like how the movie minimized those obsessions and for me, it reminds me of what is really important in life. 

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